Relationship Advice 024: The Tale of the Broken-hearted

There comes a time when a girl realizes that life is not a fairytale, there is no happily ever after, love doesn’t conquer all. There is no prince charming and there are no friendships that last a lifetime. Ladies and gentlemen, this is real life and in real life there’s heartbreak, in real life you cry a hundred tears and drown in your sorrows in hope of one day being able to smile again and that everything is alright and that you’ll be okay. It isn’t until after you make mistakes and you lose that you realize that you were wrong and the hurt you thought you once felt only hurts so much more. Believe me, chick flicks help, but only for a little while because once its over nothing has really changed for you, it was just a distraction.

In times of need we all have hope and faith in having things return to their original state or “back to normal” and we anticipate the love and support of a significant other now more than ever, but more often than not, they’re never there. I guess what I’m trying to get at is how can you plan on forever and when you’re with someone you’re unhappy and without them, the pain is even worse?

Friendships Fall Apart

So last night I guess you can say I got to see the real side of someone who I thought was a friend of mine. Today, well, today I made it known that that is no longer the case. There’s no point in holding on to something if you know for certain that it won’t be beneficial and is just a waste of your time. 

I don’t really know how I feel about the situation, but I feel that no one’s perfect and should be given an opportunity to show that no matter what, even if their past doesn’t look too promising. This person in particular didn’t have a good history, but made themselves a better person because of it, or so I thought.

Blog family I guess what I’m trying to say is don’t hold on to nonsensical situations, especially friendships if you know that nothing can become of them. That’s not to say never give someone a chance, some people do change, it’s just that there are others who do not. In the case of this friendship, I’m happy I came to this realization early rather than getting hurt over it later on.

What do you think? Do you put hope into friendships with the intention of having it work out and later hurting from a negative situation?

Ciao for now! xo

Relationship Advice 023: Analysing a Relationship Realistically

Hey guys, 

So since I’ve finished school I’ve been really focusing on myself and what I have planned for my future. I’m glad to announce that I’m starting teacher’s college this coming Fall and I know it will be tough with the many new complications it adds to my life, but it’ll be a good experience.

I guess I sort of wanted to write this post because I know A LOT of people who have recently come to  terms with wanting to change their lives in preparation for their future. I have single friends who are just absolutely confused as to whether they ever want to be in a relationship ever again or whether or not they should rekindle an old flame. I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again:

RELATIONSHIPS ARE TOUGH!

Relationships demand a lot from both sides, they not only require commitment, but a mutual understanding and trust within each other. To me, love doesn’t always conquer all and sometimes we need to take a step back and analyse a relationship realistically. If someone is too busy for you now, or in other words, a workaholic, that’ll never change and it might even get worse in the future. If someone is lazy and not goal driven, don’t feel that you have the power to change them. One must come to terms with the fact that no one can change you, but yourself, so if you are not open to change, it’ll never come your way.

I’m sorry for those of you who may be thinking that I’m being very straightforward and serious, but there is only so much fooling around a person can do. I know guys who talk to so many girls at once, that they are oblivious to the ones who really do care for them and others who are the ultimate Mr. Nice Guys, but seem to never find that perfect girl.

Personally, I think being able to analyse a relationship realistically is beneficial to both you and your current or future partner because it reassures them of your commitment. If someone cannot realistically look at the short comings and the positives simultaneously in a relationship, they may not be as serious as you are and that’s something you are better off finding out sooner rather than later.

What do you think? xo

Relationship Advice 022: When in doubt…turn to Nicholas Sparks!

Hey dolls,

When it comes to relationships one thing we’re all used to are problems, either big or small, important or stupid, we all have them. I know quite a few ladies, myself included, when all else fails, dive themselves into chick flicks:

The Notebook

Dear John

The Last Song

A Walk to Remember

Sound familar?

Trust me, you’re not alone! Lately, I’ve found myself reading a lot more than usual and of course, Nicholas Sparks, the most romantic author ever, is who I’ve taken the greatest interest in. I know when those few movies came out, I went crazy and was super excited to see them, I even have the DVDs at home. So I thought, since I’m offically done school for the next few months, why not take this new-found hobby of mine and put it to work, so my goal for this summer is to get through as many Nicholas Spark’s novels as I can.

So far, I’ve read one, but I’m about half way into my second. The first was called, A Bend in the Road, an amazing, yet unforgetable love story. The novel captivated me and with school I read it in about 3 days. I’d like us to start something, my reader’s and I called:

Sparks Stars,

where we will rate our favourite Nicholas Spark’s films or novels. For me, A Bend in the Road is 5/5 stars, it kept me so interested, I couldn’t put down the book. The newest book I’m reading is, The Lucky One, and no, I wasn’t aware that it is his newest novel turned film coming out towards the end of April. I’m so excited and can’t wait to watch the film. I will make sure I finish the book before then.

Anyway, I just thought I would let you know, that when in doubt, dive into a Nicholas Sparks romance novel, ladies, he might just be the most romantic man out there and fellas, you might want to take a lesson! Here’s the trailer for The Lucky One. Watch it and let me know what you think!

Happy Saturday! Ciao for now! xoxo

Relationship Advice 021: Am I Better Off Alone?

Have you ever felt that you’re your own worst enemy? When you have something that is all you’ve ever wanted, or even needed and yet, you always have a way of ruining it? You can try to blame it on everyone or everything else, but in the end you know its your own doing. You’re not alone, others have been there too. My advice: maybe you should be alone. 

That’s not to say that there wont be tears and memories, urges to reach out to someone or days when you need a shoulder, but maybe you need time to reflect and fix yourself before attempting to move forward. Sometimes the people you want to help you or people you think will make you feel better wont be there. One thing that I’ve been accustomed to is having people walk in and out of my life, but to be honest, I think its just a part of a learning process, you’ve learned from them and yet you’ll never forget them.

Being alone isn’t as bad as it sounds. If you think about it, you come into the world alone and when you leave, you leave alone. Like life, many things are temporary and nothing is ever present for a lifetime except for you.

In the end, being alone will help you decide who and what you are, your importance, your pleasures and pains, and your plan for what’s next. You are who you are and no one can change that.

Readers, live everyday like its your last. Make yourself happy even if its just for that temporary moment, you may never get it back. Life is short and time waits for no one. I’ve seen a lot of endings in the last little while, many people have passed away and moved on to what it said to be a “better” place, let’s hope it is.

-xoxo

End of School Update!

Good morning blog family,

So as I’ve mentioned before, I’m in my final year of my undergrad and tomorrow is my last day! It’s kind of a bitter sweet moment to me. Some expect me to be super excited and ready to run out of there without looking back, whereas others are more curious of what my next step is, the new chapter in my life.

Looking back, where did the time go? University has been the best experience of my life thus far and I sort of wish it wasn’t over. I don’t know how to come to terms with the fact that I wont be returning their next year. I guess after something has been your life for the past few years, change is not always welcome, but comes anyway.

I’ve never been one to adapt well to change, but I know in this situation it’ll be one step closer to me achieving goals that I’ve set for myself many, many years ago. It has always been my dream to be a teacher and though the process of getting there has been a lot of work, one more year is well worth it.

Support is one of the things in my life that has always been my backbone and my reason to never give up. My family has always been supportive in my choices and there to talk me through my concerns. Though I’m sad to say goodbye to my home-away-from-home, I’ve learnt a lot being there and I hope to learn a lot where ever I find myself next year.

Blog family, thank you for your support and patience in my crazy, crazy process of applications and now, the wait for acceptances into teacher’s college. If their are any other graduates reading, good luck and congratulations, you did it! We did it! 

Ciao for now dolls! xoxo

Brothers are the Best!

Hey guys,

So for those of you who know me and have been reading for quite some time now, you know when I’m going through a rough patch I don’t hold back and I share my thoughts and feelings the best way I know how, through writing to my blog family! I love you all so much and appreciate all of your likes, comments, and continuous support. That being said, yes I’m yet again going through a rough time with a few things, but with the men in my life, I think I’ll be okay.

I’ve mentioned this before, but I have a younger brother (who thinks he’s my older brother most of the time and with his height, believe me, you would agree) and I have a cousin, who I’ve grown up with like an older brother. I also grew up with many male cousins and have been blessed with a dad who has allowed me to live what I would call a life of luxury for the past twenty-two years.

If you don’t know me well through my past posts, let me just say that I am a very emotional girl and I’m proud of it. I’ve never been one to hold back in regards to showing my feelings and from a young age found myself being able to express my emotions better through my writing than my words.

Whenever something has been eating me up inside, have it be school, family or friend problems, or heartbreaks I know that no matter what my brothers will always be there. Today was no exception. I was overwhelmed with so many things and of course, my younger brother could tell right off the bat that something was wrong and went out of his way to try and make me smile and laugh. I know, it sounds like we have an amazing sibling dynamic right? We do fight sometimes, but for the most part, we’ve bonded a lot over the past few years and I love my brother. For those of you who are curious as to whether he was successful in making me smile, yes, but he also didn’t miss the few tears that trickled down my cheeks either.

As for my other brother, no one knows me better than him. We grew up closer than anyone I know, he knows me probably better than I know myself and whenever I send out a distress call, he’s right there with me. It’s almost like my problems are his and I don’t know what I would do without him.

I guess tonight my take home message is for the ladies,

Look at the men in your life. Look at the way they treat you, talk to you, take care of you and let that be an example of what you deserve. Honey, you deserve the world and all that’s in it and if a gentleman comes along that will spoil you like your dad, care for you and love you and protect you like your brothers, give him a chance.

I’m a very lucky girl and yes, I may not have a lot of girlfriends, but I have the support of amazing men who I know will never break my heart and I hope that those of you out there acknowledge the love and support of the men in your life.

To the fathers, brothers, cousins, uncles out there…

Thank you for setting an example of what a good man should be like and letting us know how we deserve to be treated and how much love and support we have around us always.

Ciao for now dolls! xoxo